I normally wouldnt go to a forum to ask about this problem but the explorer forum feels like family so i guess ill ask. .. Ihad been going out with a girl for about a year an a half up till my birthday (nov 20th) when we got in a fight and broke up. I have to admit i havent been the best boyfriend, i have done some stupid things that really hurt her but i never ever cheated on her.. now things are weird between us and im starting to realize ive made a terrible mistake letting such an awesome person go.. i havent had a full nights sleep since then, i can barely concentrate on my finals and to make maters worse she goes to school in connecticut? any ideas of how i can bring her back into my life? Also my parents dont like her and i think they are happy i dont go out with her, how can i explain to them to make them treat her better. (they played a big part in our fight wehn we broke up) thanx for your help

well........as far as your parents go, you just have to let them know how important she is to you- stand up for her when they put her down. but on the other hand, why dont they like her? maybe they see something you dont. Bottom line, you should talk to them about it.

More importantly, getting her back.....I know this sounds cliche, and it's soooooo hard for you guys to show your feelings:p, but all you have to do is tell her how you feel. We girls are suckers for that. I guy expressing his feelings to a girl is like a girl taking off her clothes for a guy:D
So, just talk to her...most likely that will do it. But make sure that getting back together is definitely what you want to do first!
good luck!

yeah i think this is the hardest part.. shes awesome but at times i used to think why am i going out with her but now that i realize im not with her i see all the good things and all the mistakes i made. I dont know i guess ill just let things roll and see what happens

Pem that post above sounds the best....

Originally posted by annabanana
More importantly, getting her back.....I know this sounds cliche, and it's soooooo hard for you guys to show your feelings:p, but all you have to do is tell her how you feel. We girls are suckers for that. I guy expressing his feelings to a girl is like a girl taking off her clothes for a guy:D
So, just talk to her...most likely that will do it. But make sure that getting back together is definitely what you want to do first!
good luck!

and anna..that isnt always true... i told a girl how much i liked her, now we dont really even talk to each other anymore... i still send her emails and she responds, but we dont hang out liek we used to... even worse part is, i am friends with her sister.... so, the sister barely hangs out with me anymore either.... and we were past the clothes part...

bro, I did the same thing in high school. I went out with this awsome girl from 8th grade until the end of 11th grade. I did the same thing wondering why I stayed with her when I could be going out with so many other girls, I flirt a lot but never really cheated. I mean I knew she was gorgeous, very smart, and was the sweetest person I knew, but I kept wondering why we stayed together. A bunch of BS happened and we got into a huge fight and I basically told her to go ###### herself and I was sick of her, when I had no right or basis to say that. Just by saying that, totally fugged up our relationship.

She was one of my best friends and slept over almost every single night, yes my mom is mad cool, and she was like a daughter to my mom. I regret everything still to this day and I still miss our relationship.

We didn't talk for like a half a year and it sucked b/c we we're both popular and friends with basically the same people, so we got put in some weird situations after that.

I still missed her (this is in 12th grade) and we both ended up getting voted "Class Cuties", and we had to hold each other for the picture, needless to say that was a weird moment.

we talk like on and off now, but I always apologize to her 2yrs after this happened b/c I realized what a jerk I was to pull that crap.

Sounds like the same story over and over. When I was 20 I met this 18 year old girl and we hit it off on the first date and were best friends ever since. We went out for 2 1/2 years, and little did I know/care at the time that she was the best thing to ever come in to my life. I was immature and hurt her bad. When we broke up, I was sick for months and so was she. It was horrible. I am 24 now and just recently I called her admitted my wrong doing and apologized for hurting her. She told me that she can't have a meaningful relationship with anyone because she has trust issues now. To this day I feel horrible about it, but at least I feel better for talking to her about things and saying I was sorry. And truly meaning it.

Bottom line, this would have been my perfect person to marry some day and I blew it. It is one of my life's biggest regrets so far. She was beautiful, fun, put up with me, loved my family, etc. We were perfect for eachother, but my immaturity and curiosity about what else was out there ruined it.

Don't make the same mistake if you think this is right for you.

--Sean

Am I happay I found this. Fortunately I am in the middle of the exact same thing you are ALL mentioning. I have been with my girl for the past 2 1/2 yrs. and truth be told I find myself asking why I am still with her. We met mid yr our Jr year in high school, now I am in my second semester of college and things are only getting worse for me. There is so much to do here and even more since I joined a fraternity. (SIGMA ALPHA EPSILON). The good side is that lately I have been receiving these, for a lack of a better word, Omens. Signs reminding me why I am with her. she's great, and oh so darn hot, 5'10, blonde, green eyed, ex-model, just a babe and such a sweetheart. Its just that I am an idiot sometimes and need a reminder and this has been the most blunt so far, so thanks I guess, thanks for making me see where I might be if I let her go.

sorry i havent gotten back to all you guys about this thread in a while... anyway things are still the same .. we arent going out but we do hang out when im home.. lately things have gotten pretty ****ed up.. i guess she met some kid but just today she called me to say he was a dick an such and how she missed me.. so who knows i guess im back to the begining trying to figure out what to do... no worries ill just sit back and hit a spliff and see what happens

OMG guy's i'm in the same situation :( Everywhere i go, i see something that reminds me of her, and it kills me.

Originally posted by Yomie
OMG guy's i'm in the same situation :( Everywhere i go, i see something that reminds me of her, and it kills me.

ha... me too... iwas talking to a friend the other night... and told her what happened with me and the girl i was dating.... the girl i was dating has a wierd name... and my friend was like whats her last name? i told her and she was just in awww.... she knows the girl i used to date... and isnt friends with her, but knows her a little bit..... maybe this new friend will help me get through this... she rekindled the spark i had with the girl i was dating, and told me to ask her out again, figuring 3 months was enough space for her.....

awww you guys are so cute ... the best thing to do to regain a friendship with a girl is to simply be interested in what she is, support her in the things she does and get her involved with what you like ..

3 years ago i was dating what i thought was a great guy - but he never let me meet his friends until we accidently ran into them somewhere ... he always had "tons of friends that were girls" but i never knew their names or anything - sounds fishy doesnt it ... well i never really thought about it - the worst happened - a friend of ours from his school (we attended different schools) died in a car accident and our relationship ended because we couldn't communicate about it - and he didn't want me to go to the funeral or the viewing ...:fire:

anyways sorry for the boring story - but yes guys try that any maybe it will work out for you - OR you canjust stalk them until they give in ... :rolleyes: ok so dont really do that - keep me posted on how you guys are doing

I would say just tell her exactly what you said up above about how you care about her and how you made some mistakes. Don't let her go. You'll regret it.

But what do I know, I'm also in the same situation.:(