I also picked up my 2013 Explorer XLT on 3/31/12 and love it. It's comfortable, gets good gas mileage (25.3 on the highway) well mannered, quiet, and very nice to drive. No problems whatsoever. The wife loves it and she drives a 2012 Mercedes E 350. We test drove alot of cars and suv's prior to driving the Explorer, and the Explorer was the best by far. I am sorry you don't like yours but I would highly recommend this vehicle to anybody. Seems like you should have spent more time behind the wheel prior to buying it.
Does the XLT have the features that the Limited with the 302A package has? If not, then I am glad you like your car, but you're comparing apples to staplers.
The E350 has a different "mission" than the Explorer. I had a GL450 on a two year lease years ago and could not justify the relatively low residual and resultant high monthly payments compared to the Volvo XC90 (which also has poor residuals, but is tens of thousands cheaper than the comparably equipped 450), especially since Mercedes generally rips off Volvo's safety tech several years after the fact.
Th Ex Limited with 302A is the closest I see in the market feature-wise at a relatively low entry price point that was from a non-taxpayer-screwing car company (GM). I was expecting the same refinement in those features that Volvo and MB have, meaning, all of the "little things" are there and things just work.
Unfortunately, this is not the case. I have no doubt, however, that Ford will continue to refine these features in future model years, but again, I thought I was paying for them now.
The dealership did not have a 2013 Limited on the lot. As a matter of fact, the highest end Ex on the lot was a 2102 XLT. No area dealerships had 2013 Explorers in inventory when I ordered in February, let alone having the 302A package. So, unfortunately, we had to take a leap of faith.