If its not on a the ground, then there are a few places that coolent may be going
1) Its getting burned: sucked in the combustion chamber and turned into gobal warminizing fumes. In this case, the head gasket may be at fault. A compression test can tell you if its the head gasket. It would be a big leak.
If its the lower intake gasket, coolent would be either squeezing out the water jackets to the very front or very rear of the engine (you would see coolent on the ground, down the side of the block), or the opposite way directly inside of the engine. I'm sure it wouldnt get sucked in and burned this way, the coolent jackets have a good inch between them and the closest intake port. But a hunch tells me you may be having a different problem
2) Into the engine due to a cracked head. This will not be obvious, and it could also mean your coolent is going directly into your oil... not good, engine bearings tend to scorch when water is used in place of oil. I believe this may be your problem since you mentioned the problem started after overheating, with this the coolent leak wouldnt be huge, simular to how you describe it.
I say try a compression check. If compression is good in all 6 cylinders, id put my money on a cracked head. If retorqing the lower intake doesnt help and you end up removing the lower intake, you might aswell take the extra step to remove the heads. Have them magnafluxed by some shop (you could pretty much do this yourself... big magnet + fine, fine, powder-like metal shavings). 4.0 heads are prone to crack just about anywhere: deck surface, between the valve seats, on top around the intake ports... its anyone's game.
Having the heads checked/cleaned without much additional work you are looking at $300 to have a fresh top end ($150 in gaskets, $150 in head work), considering you do it youself. If the heads require welding (due to a crack), and new valve guides... (since they are probably bearly holding back oil at this point in their life, stock heads?) you might aswell get a new set of heads. The aftermarket castings are usually better anyway.
Now if you just wanna retorque the lower as a test, its really not that difficult.
First remove the upper intake, this should be pretty straight forward... all the sensors, intake tubing, vaccume hoses, and throttle cable have to go.
From there i believe its 6x 15mm nuts that fasten the upper. There will be a small gasket between the upper and lower, if it comes off in once peice you can probably re-use it.
From there you should be able to reach the 8 nuts/bolts that clamp down the lower intake. The bolts are 10mm, and then nuts are 13mm (i think). I always torqued mine in 3 steps using the specs that came with the Fel-pro gasket set. 8lbs-11lbs-14lbs if i remember correctly. I may be wrong on this as i'm describing it all from memory, the Haynes manual will have these specs laid out.
Good luck...