I don't believe I "over-maintain" my vehicles. IIRC these Moog upper BJ boots have a grease pressure-release nipple on them, so if I had pumped too much grease into them (which I don't think I did) the excess should have come out the nipple. I also believe that this was my second time greasing these ball joints in 13,000-14,000 miles and I typically only give the grease gun a couple of pumps. That doesn't seem obsessive or excessive to me.
When I was buying brand new vehicles every 3-4 years I didn't worry about maintenance that much, other than regular oil changes/filters and I never replaced any suspension parts during my 40k-50k miles of ownership. I'm retired now, don't drive very much and the 3 vehicles in our household are all about 20 years old with 200k+ on them. I live on a fixed income and can no longer afford to buy new vehicles, as such I do my best to stay on top of maintenance and repairs so that we can get the most out of our vehicles.
In my experience, if you wait until your tires start wearing funny and/or your ball joints start thumping and squeaking it's only going to cost you more money to make repairs, effect your vehicles safety and reliability and will likely have you working on your vehicle in less than ideal conditions when you don't have the time to spend on them.
When I replace parts I always try to make sure that the part I'm replacing is the issue and never just throw money at a problem. For example. my '01 EB 5.0L has recently started howling/humming at idle. I removed and cleaned the IAC valve, but it didn't help so I'm fairly confident that I need to replace the IAC valve soon. If I want to be 100% sure the valve needs to be replaced I'd try swapping it with one of my other vehicles, but I don't think that's necessary. This isn't the first IAC valve I'm had go bad.