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The dog/owner bond (non-dog owners won't understand)

mattadams

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I want to share a story with you and I'm not sure you'll believe it, but I believe it and thats what counts. Those that have truly bonded with a pet and not just owned one might understand this better then someone who has never had one.
As you may know my dog Nugget, that I had had since I was 7 and she was literally my best friend for years until August of 2002 when she went to doggie heaven after a good long full life. Many people say they don't get to say goodbye to their loved ones but the night she died, I was out of town and didn't know officially she had died for a few days, but I received a dream where she was playing around like a puppy, but with the wisdom of an adult dog. She was just playing and playing, like she hadn't been able to in years. I know she'd gone to heaven in the back of my mind but my parents didn't confirm it until a few days later.
Last night I had a dream where I was at my parents house and I was walking up the bottom level stairs and she was lying on the upper set of stairs where she always used to. No one else could see her but I could. I kissed her and she gave me a lick back, and we talked (not physically talked but communicated, hard to explain to someone whos never bonded with a dog). I told her I missed her and she told me she missed me, but that I needed to stop being sad over her. We were both sad when she left this earth of course, but she said I was robbing another dog of the excellent experience of being owned by me by me grieving over her. I told her that with my current living situation, etc. getting a dog would not be easy, but she said when the time came and I found the right dog I would know instantly. She said I didn't even have to look for the dog, the dog would find me. We chit-chatted about a few more things, and she said she had to go, it was about time for me to wake up. She got up and left out the front door. As the front door shut, my alarm clock went off. Coincidence? I don't believe in coicidences. I believe the bond between a dog and his owner can be stronger then any human bond and can extend beyond the grave. I'm crying as I type this, but I urge you all to hug your dogs, kiss them while you still have them, bond with them, it will pay off in the end.
 


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Too cool Matt. Definately show your love to them when you can. I lost 2 dogs last year without being able to say goodbye. It's hard.
 








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I would probably cry like a little girl if my dog died right now. Hopefully she has many years ahead of her.
 




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:) I completely believe in the bond between an owner and their dog. There is nothing like that relationship.
 




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there are times when i have gone out to play with the two dogs i have now, one of which looks almost exactly like my last dog that passed away a few years ago, and for just a second i think i see her running around with our current two dogs. her name was bones and she was my true best friend more than a decade. when i would go home from college she would almost kill herself to play with me even though she had arthritis really bad and just developed heartworms (even though we treated for that regularly). i wasn't there when my parents took her to get put down finally and the last time i had seen her was about 2 months before that. it was truly sad and i was so upset that i couldn't see her before she left. i did however feel that she knew i wanted to be there and that i would never forget her. it took 3 years for me to get another dog mainly for housing reasons. we got dakota in august of 01 and i knew it was the one for us. she was 8 weeks old and i could tell she was so similar to bones already and not just by appearance. i almost felt that bones was there to give us the go ahead and then left for good knowing that i had finally a worthy new companion. we got cocoa about a year later and these two girls play like i've never seen dogs play. they go out of their way to greet us and be around us and please us just as bones did. i'm not a spiritual person at all, but it sometimes seems as though bones was there to help raise these two and show them what i wanted and what i expected of them.
before bones, i had a dog named bear. she was awesome too, but she was only around for a few years. she had a short but very good life. i watched her get hit by a car and she died in my arms on the side of the road. its almost like she taught bones and explained to her not to run across the road because bones would look both ways and then cross. like she wanted bones to be able to spend more time with us than she got too.
i was sadder to see my dogs go than i have been to see human friends die. i posted the following in another thread where joe was letting us know about his dog passing away. i think it explains why i miss my dogs more than any human friend i have ever had, and what makes the bond so special.

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a dog is such a loyal and loving friend. anytime you come home the dog is ready to see you and happy that you are home. even if you are in a crappy mood and don't want anything to do with anyone! even if you just got done yelling at the dog for something. the dog is still your best friend. never mad at you. never holds grudges. never talks about you. never leaves you hangin or stands you up. your dog is ALWAYS there for you, ready to play or lie down beside you, whichever you want.
i watched one of my dogs get hit by a car and she died in my arms.
the last one we had put down because old age was taking its toll on her. i had her for 14 years and she never let me down.
the two i have now are part of the family and i don't even like thinking about what it will be like without them. you can never have a friend that is as good to you and as loyal as a good dog.
all those god and afterlife threads that we have recently.... if there is a heaven and life after... i sure hope my dogs are all there to play with.
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Just the thought of losing my dogs breaks my heart, it's going to be tough when they do go.
 




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Matt-

I had to put my dog asleep not to long ago.. about 4 months now... My family had him for 13 years. I had not cried about his death really until i read your post.

I now realize i have been holding in some very deep feelings for Barney and truly do miss him dearly. I currently am looking for a new dog, but it is so hard...

When my parents took him to the Vet to have him put down, i couldn't go. I was so upset with them for doing so. However i realize why they did it. I wish he could be here now!
 




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I know what you're tlaking about Matt...

I have had the joy of having the companionship of many dogs in my life. I have always had a dog. When I went away from home for school, I would go home every couple of weeks just to see the dogs. I wasn't homesick for my family...just my dogs. It got to the point that when I moved off campus I got a dog of my own to come home to during the day. It made life much more relaxing for me.

My current dog (mentioned as part of my "trail equipment" in my sig.) is one that I sort of rescued. She was the last of a litter and scheduled to be put down at the local animal hospital, my buddy had first dibs because he was the one that was tipped off about her, but boy was I pissed when he said he would take her. It turned out that he was not able to keep her, so she became mine... I am dreading the day that she will leave me...I don't know if I'll have the heart to put her down if it comes to that (though she has at least seven or eight good years left)...

For those that are dog lovers (and more specifically of rescues) I submit the following poem that I was forwarded to me via email a few years ago...it is focused at rescue owners, but all dog lovers can appreciate and take something from it...


I wasn't a pup when I came to your home,
I'd been dumped on the raod, left to roam,
Don't remember the people except the pain,
They left me to die in the cold and the rain.

You were driving down the highway, it was late at night,
When you saw the faintest glimmer of light.
You took a chance and turned around,
Got out of the van and knelt to the ground.

My quivering body felt the gentlest of hands,
I knew I need not make any demands.
In your heart, and your home, there ways always room,
For those who would face certain doom.

You healed my body and you healed my heart.
You gave me what I needed, a fresh start.
When I cried at night, you were always there,
With soft words, a kiss, a hug to share.

When I misbehaved and would cower with guilt
You only showed love...up to the hilt.
You loved and cared for me in sickness and health,
Our love for each other was more precious than wealth.

Even when you were tired and had a bad day,
You'd always come home to me and say,
"I missed you my baby. I'm glad to be back."
Then you'd give me a kiss, a hug, and a pat.

We'd have a nice dinner and then go out to play,
There was so much love I wanted to stay.
But my eyes, they faded and my heart grew weak,
As my time grew closer you could not speak.

You held me tight, tears flowed from your eyes,
We both had to say our sad goodbyes.
The release from pain we knew must end,
No more time on this Earth would we spend,
Running in the fields, playing ball,
Sitting quietly together at the end of it all.

But our time together is not through,
Because I'll be there waiting for you.
At the edge of the Rainbow Bridge I'll stand,
Until I once again see those gentle hands.
I'll run to you with tail held high,
We will never again have to say goodbye.
My love at death, it does not end,
Because you are, indeed, dogs best friend.

--Jeane Illsche


This brings a tear to my eye just about everytime I read it. I hope that it brings comfort to those that have loved and lost a dog...

Dave

P.S. Sorry for the length of the post, if you read this far...
 




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OK, I'm out of breath because I just had to run and hug and kiss Wilson (check my sig).

I know exactly what you mean. And, no, I don't think that your dream was a coincidence. As part of my faith (Roman Catholic) I firmly believe that our relatives, 2 legs or 4, look down upon us after death. I KNOW my grandmother does as I've had similar dreams about her.

Remember, all dogs go to heaven.
 




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Ok now that I have stopped crying for a few minutes. SOme of you mAy or may not know that I had to put My dog/Bestfriend for 16 years down last week. I just want to tell my little story about my bestfriend. When I was 4 my Aunt got this Puppy Named Sandy from an abusive Family. They burned her with cigarettes and such. I was verry close to my Aut and spent most of my weekends at her home. When I would come over she knew that Sandy and I had a verry special bond. When I was five my Aunt passed away and Left me Sandy in her will and told me to take care and love her and to always think of her(My aunt) when I played with Sandy. So for the next 16 years I loved and charished Sandy With all My heart. Well Last weekend I was in New Mexico for spring Break and I got a call fomr my Mom who was watching Sandy for me while I was gone. She said that Sandy wasn't eating or walking. I told her to try and get her to the Vet. My mom said that she had tried but Sandy would try and bite anyone that touched her. When Sandy would get sick I would be the only one that could touch her without getting bit. When she told me that I knew in my heart something was really wrong And I left New Mexico and Drocve home to take her to the vet. When I got her to the vet she was in bad shape. She had cancer in her chest, kidneys, and it looked like it had moved to her brain. Also some how her spleen ruptured causing her to bleed, It was unstoppable. So the only thing I could do was put her down to end the pain she was suffering. My girlfriend didnt want me to be present while they put Sandy down but I had to. She was always there for me when times were bad and I had to be there for her. As they put the shot in. Sandy looked at me wagged her tail and licked my face for the last time. When I looked at her I knew she was saying thankyou for loving her. When she died I was so upset but I knew I had done the right thing but it was hard. I not only lost my bestfriend when Sandy Died but I also lost Part of MY Aunt as well. Well the other day I went and picked up Sandys Ashes and took them to the place where my Aunt had her ashes spread and reunited them once again. Sorry it was long but I just had to let it go i'm crying right now but i feel good about it. I told my friends I want to get another dog in the future and they say i'm crazy cause all dogs do is cause heartbreak. I told them It was well worth it and would do it over again in a heartbeat. Ok i'm done.
 




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My dog likes to come up to me and lick my butt/back when I am bending over getting her ball out from under the couch where she kicks it. She also likes to do that when I am under my truck and causing me to get a nice bump on my head.

Dogs are cool. :) This coming from someone who used to be soooo afraid of doggies. :) LOL
 




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*jim is now wiping the tears away from his eyes*
 




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heh heh Ryan how funny... your dogs a cutie, gotta admit that :). Whens she gonna come down for a playdate with my parents dogs again? :)
 




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I don't know. We will have to see what we do this weekend. :)

I think she thinks its funny too. Its one of those things were I am already WAY to tickelish as it is and it just drives me up the wall. I know she gets a kick out of it.
 




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