Redneck, I've got almost the same issue, except I can get into and out of 4HI fine, its when i switch into 4LO, it gets stuck in that. The only way I can fix this is if i disconnect the battery for a minuet or two, then reconnect it, start the engine, and presto back in 2wd(auto).
I have a 98 explorer sport...I took apart the shift motor just like exeryone else, except I saw almost nothing wrong! the bushing was fine, all the gaskets were okay, nothing broken, the springs were in position in the correct areas and had good tension, the shift motor loks great. I applied some lithium greese to the gears, the stock stuff hardened a tad and wasnt in place correctly.
anyone have another idea what my issue could be?