I want to thank everyone for helping me, this has been if not fun, interesting. this is a little update and maybe some new info. I have not found this test on the forum here. it probably is on here, if it is or it isn't, this test should be a sticky at the top of the, well at least the 5r55e page.
After going through all I have posted above. I put it all back together, same thing! no reverse no drive, but 1 and 2 work.
after typing "no reverse, no drive 5r55e" in google and searching and searching I came across this quote:
"5R55E no reverse, no drive
this condition cannot be electrical
disconnect main wiring harness to transmission
if you still have no reverse and drive, it is a hard part.
if you now have reverse and drive, it is either a bad harness or bad PCM. " unquote
I unplugged my harness and now I have reverse and drive and a desperate prayer that it is the wiring harness. this should be the first thing anyone with a 5r55e and a no reverse situation should try.
stairway to a no reverse situation.
thank you all so much again. and I will keep you posted on the final fix. could someone let me know the mechanics of this and what else it could point too? I don't want anyone else to go through 6 days and 7 tranny pan drops the way I have.