The 35 uses the same carrier for both gearsets, mine had 3.55 and I used the same carrier when I put the 4.10's in. So, no you don't need a different carrier.
You can use the notched pin if you're useing a stock carrier and spiders, if you plan to use a lunchbox locker like a lock right use the stock pin and grind the gear tooth. The locker will eventually break a notched pin.
Any gear retailer can get the notched pin if that's what you need