with my '04 AWD, all 4 tires spinning while on the hoist, just at idle in gear.
You should also have open front and rear diffs which can allow only one tire to spin, but at least the front and rears spin.
I thought when you got stuck and the tires start spinning, you should get a full lock, or you should pull out. How many miles? I hate to say it but it sounds like the viscous clutch is fried. One of the test is put the front or rear on ice and you should still be able to pull yourself out. What happens when you drive in a slow figure 8? Any binding?