My advice is get the Transgo kit, AND the Sonnax Boost valve with O-rings at a minimum. Do a google search online or find a transmission parts house. your local Autozone does NOT carry this kind of stuff. You may need to purchase some numbered drill bits. Make sure you have some small snack size ziplock bags, buy a couple cans of brake cleaner and some spray lubricant. If you visit a trans parts house get some aerosol valve body and governor lube, otherwise use WD-40, some ATF in a pump can, or something similar to lubricate the VB as you go through it. Print out the diary and also print out the VB removal and reinstallation part of the main rebuild diary. You will also need some new Valve body gaskets... there are 2 and they are different. Same place as the transgo kit. In a perfect world you'd add the superior kit and the manual valve indexer. You will need an inch pound torque wrench and my "rats ass" assortment of things to get the spools out.
As for linkage, once you look at the pictures and stuff, the Z link becomes important.... just follow the movement from the cables to the shift lever, and then inside the transmission and you will see how it works... with the car off have someone shift the tranny while you watch with the pan off, you'll soon see how it all works...
ps, this is a good time to replace the filter too. Make sure you put the O-rings on it, and use the proper bolt to attach it.... pay careful attention when you remove the old one and it will be a snap.