The yellow wire isn't supposed to help. Had you read the entire thread, you'd see that the yellow wire is NOT the correct one to clip. Hence the name, BROWN wire mod.
You'll need to check the Transfer Case Shift Relay output, and the Torque On Demand Relay independently. That'll be tough to do because they share a common wire (the BROWN one). The easiest way would be to de-pin the connector at the TCS and plug it in, checking the output to determine which is the power source engaging the clutch.
It's also possible that the 4wd switch has gone bad. You can check the individual resistances there to make sure it's not a switch. (I believe they should be 1.5 k-ohms, 640 ohms, and 230, if I remember correctly)
Another possibility is that one of the driveshaft speed sensors took a dump (probably the front one) and has the GEM thinking that the front wheels aren't turning, thereby engaging the auto 4wd. The only way to know that would be to pay the $85 diagnostic fee to have them hook it up and see why it's engaging.
The final thing that comes to mind would be a bad Torque On Demand relay..... they're solid-state unitsso they don't fail very often, but they're not too expensive from what I recall, and probably the easiest change to make. Swap it out (making sure to reconnect the yellow wire, of course) and see if it fixes the problem.
Does that answer your questions?
-Joe