No and no.
Flush is a bad idea and so is the shift kit. With the Sonnax valve it'll shift very firm already any more than that and they just bang shift to hard.
On the mushy feel'n trans put it in drive not overdrive and you'll see a difference. The power valve in these have a low and high pressure position, in overdrive it is low pressure for a smoother shift. In drive it'll shift faster and firmer and at a higher rpm. Sort of a built in shift kit.
And yet another diagram: Shift sequence..
This shows the main flaw in the A4LD and that is that when in overdrive the band is engaged but not the sprag (one way clutch) putting all the stress on the overdrive drum (which is stamped steel) so when you downshift at full power it hits the sprag without any hydraulic clutch to cushion the blow and bang you smash the OD drum or blow the front seal out.
A sprag or one-way clutch is like a bicycle hub, spins free one direction, clickity, clickity, but turn it the other way and it instantly grabs. It is a mechanical clutch not hydraulic.
This is why Ford flat out says DO NOT TOW IN OVERDRIVE. also not recommended for any lead foot round town play or off road. Me personally I never use overdrive unless I'm on open highway and lightly loaded. Actually does better on gas around town this way.
Also notice that the reverse band is engaged only for 1st gear "manual" to further strengthen 1st gear for serious pulls, that's actually a nice trick. (primary nasty stuff gear) So for off road use manual 1st as your main choice rather than just tool'n around in drive.
Never mind the highlights found the pic this way: