I had a very similar problem, untill this morning. I installed the Ford oom12 kit, it was for a 2000 X sohc. It replaces the lower to middle and middle to upper intake O rings. Mine were as hard as rocks and i could see where air/dirt/oil was going past them. It started perfect after. Here is the original thread, where i found it. http://www.explorerforum.com/forums/showthread.php?t=61152&highlight=00m12&page=2.
Mikeh posted it. It took me almost 3 hours, it would have been shorter but i lost a bolt.
tony