If you get a long enough jumper wire you can jump from the pressure switch directly to the compressor clutch coil to see if it locks in.
Do a point to point check from your relay back to your pressure switch and then from your relay back to your A\C clutch coil connector. That will tell you which one is missing.
Check around the area of the relay socket to see if you have any stray wires hanging around \ burned off with nothing connected. My bet is that one of those is your victim.
Also if you pay close attention to the relay itself there are 2 small blades and 3 big blades. Chances are would be that the small blades are the coil and the big blades are the relay contacts themselves.