For small runs you would have a point if this were a new product, but much of the work and expense had already been done since these were an existing product already made and used in the vehicles. Once they made the first million for that, making a few more is not very expensive.
That is a topic too broad for this forum post since many parts on a modern vehicle are not made in the US, but regardless of that, vehicles would cost in excess of $100K if every little plug and other subcomponent were this expensive.
Often it is possible to use wire piercing, multimeter probe tips. They can often, also be inserted into the rear of a connector where the wire enters. In certain situations I've even made some just for a job, taking a metal sleeve the I.D. of the multimeter probe and soldering a sewing needle onto it. That won't handle much current and introduces some resistance but on many automotive circuits it's negligible. If the needle is small (and sharp) enough the insulation closes afterwards so there is minimal issue of damage to the wire insulation.
Here's an example of the last needle probe I made out of a random connector sleeve.