Snipped a little. My panties aren't in a bunch.

I haven't made my purchase yet and it was an honest question. On paper, and in my test drives, the Ex beat the Durango. But I'm not considering the Hemi Durango due to gas mileage. I don't need 0-60 time, I need a people mover and a go-to-work vehicle. I may even go for the Ecoboost.
And for that link, working in technology myself, I can see (to some extent) where Ford is coming from. Yeah MFT has some pretty glaring issues, but from what I've read on this forum and in that article, it looks like Ford is aware and they're working on it. I can't really ask any more than that.
If I'm missing something, please tell me.