I have a 93 XLT with 260k!!! I got you man.
the RPMs jumping around does sound kind of strange, but mine did it to when I first got it, and mine had 214K when i got it.
About 6 months into having it, it was sputtering REALLY bad, and the RPMs were a little weird as well, but there are a BUNCH of things you can do to help it at it's current point in miles... Bear with me for a few minutes, I have a bunch of suggestions to help you out...
1. Start using a better gasoline if you aren't all ready. Using surplus gas from the 'save 3 cents with yoru kroger card' isn't going to help. A lot of these places use surplus gasoline, which is still gasoline, but may not be mixed as well. I use shell/bp and nothing but and i feel that it runs better off of these stations then the cheaper ones. I don't run 93 all the time, mostly 87, but i do run one tankful of v-power gasoline once a month.
2. For a engine cleaner, I run the Lucas Fuel Injector cleaner about every other month or so. Essex mentioned Zmax... not going to say it's a crap product because I myself have never used it, but he is the ONLY person I've ever heard of to get gains out of it... it may help with the cheaper gasolines, but just use good gas from good stations and you'll be straight.
3. Replace your spark plugs and spark plug wires if you haven't all ready. If you can't remember changing them, then do it. Most plugs have a 'long life', but with our older engines they should be replaced regularly... I do mine every year, because it's only 30-35 dollars for everything. Kinda like a yearly tune up.
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http://www.explorerforum.com/forums/showthread.php?t=79362
I've started working on this, but my 'dremel' is an offbrand, so i'm slowly getting it to the right voltage.
5. Replace your fuel filter! I had 245 THOUSAND miles on my explorer before it was ever changed out. I couldn't tell any difference personally, so maybe mine was still okay.
6. Another cause of the rpm jumps could be a vacuum leak... i've had hoses pop off and my idles were all over the place. so just check the vacuum tree for a hose or cap that's popped off.
Follow my train of thought here for a second, you're saying that you have to 'pump' the gas, I wouldn't think that you would be able to because it's fuel injected, all that happens when you press the gas pedal is you open the throttle, so i don't think that's helping really... The slow start may be caused by your spark plugs, if they're old and crappy then the sparks may not be as strong, and not igniting the fuel as quick as you'd want it. I've also started letting my fuel pump prime itself, which is accomplished by turning the key forward to turn the radio on, you'll hear it, kinda like a 'moan' (lol), only needs to be turned there for about 2 seconds, then go all the way. i feel that it starts quicker because the fuel is ready to go.
sorry this is so lengthy, but this should get you going towards the right direction. feel free to contact me with any more questions, i'll be happy to help:
berkinstocks87@yahoo.com