I think there may be some confusion here about what exactly a 'towing package' consists of on the Explorers...
First of all, ALL SECOND GEN EXPLORERS built from 1995-2001 come equipped from the factory with the ability to tow a trailer. They all had a step-bumper rated to tow 350lbs tongue weight, 3500lbs gross trailer weight. They all come with the wiring necessary to connect a trailer's lights. As mentioned, the round connector is tucked up behind the driver's side taillight on most of them (If my memory serves, there are some 95 and 96 models that had a slightly-different-wired connector on the passenger side). The factory trailer wiring harness that can be purchased at the dealership or many parts stores plugs directly into that round connector and feeds the trailer's brake/turn/marker lights of independent circuits isolated from the tow vehicle's wiring. There is no special converter or module necessary, just the proper wiring adapter. At the dealership, it's possible to get just the wiring, or the kit that includes the wiring, a couple clips, and a little bracket that bolts to the bumper that holds the receptacle up and out of the way. (Don't have the part numbers in front of me, but they're on the parts diagrams at any dealership)
Now, there was also a Class III/IV Heavy Duty trailer towing package that was optional. That included a larger battery, heavy duty alternator, heavy duty cooling, class III/IV hitch receiver, and a particular set of gear ratios (if my memory serves, the HD towing package added the 3.73 gears standard with the package, and I think the 4.10 was optional, but I'd have to look at the brochure when I get home).
Some of the option and trim packages offered automatically included the 3.73 and 4.10 gears as a part of the package, so the gearing alone isn't necessarily an indication of whether or not it came equipped with the heavy duty class III/IV towing package or not.
None of the second-gens came equipped with the wiring to support an aftermarket trailer brake controller, but adding one only reauires three more wires and a relay. It's not a terribly difficult job to add one.