The front diff is not under the same load as the rear, so 80W90 conventional oil is fine.
For the transfer case, I use M1 synthetic ATF, but any good ATF can be used there. That case does not hold much fluid, so I would change it every 30K Miles. I added a magnetic drain plug to my TC to catch any filings.
Your rear axel (V8) calls for 74W140 synthetic. You can use M1, Redline, Amsoil, or Ford (with Ford you need to add the LSD additive if you have trac-lock) All good products. BMW calls for axel fluid change after first 1200 miles. I used to work for a transport company, and the techs would change the fluid in our new Freighliners after a few weeks, then it stayed in for 500,000K miles
The best time to change axel fluid is after the axel has broken in around 1,200 to 2,000 Miles. The next best time is now.