To start with, use a lift kit with soft springs or build your own kit. James Duff and skyjacker TTB springs will flex more than pretty much any other TTB lift kit springs.
If your building your own lift, make sure the passenger side beams axle pivot (the one on the driver side of the vehicle) is a single piece unit and does not use a drop plate to lower the axle pivot. The drop plates make it so the diff will hit the plate when the suspension compresses.
Now for the extra things you can do...
Use f-250 shock mounts so you can run longer shocks up front.
Get extended Radius arms to the RA bushings don't bind during flex.
use rubber bushings (In my experience they do flex more)
Make sure the tires don't hit anything when flexing (cut the fender etc)
Open the hole on the passenger side axle beam where the axle goes through so it doesn't hit when flexing.
If your going to wheel it, personally I'd do the c-clip eliminator for the front axle (search for c-clip eliminator made easy)
After all that, the only thing left is really cut/turned beams but you don't "need" them to get a bunch of flex. Using cut/turned beams means you don't need axle pivot drop brackets (assuming they are turned the right amount) and it increases ground clearance where the axle pivot but it might change how much droop you can get due to how the lower shock mount is and it reacts differently when off-camber.
Here are a couple shots of our X showing its flex through the different mods..
Duff lift (3.5" springs with spacer) with duff brackets
th-RTI-459 by
maniak_az, on Flickr
Duff lift (3.5" spring with spacer), f-250 shock mounts and extended RA (using Ballistic Joints instead of RA bushings)
truckhaven-57 by
maniak_az, on Flickr
and
truckhaven-55 by
maniak_az, on Flickr
Duff springs (3.5" + spacer), Cut turned beams, f-250 shock mounts and extended Radius arms.
Truckhaven-mlk 2012 -5 by
maniak_az, on Flickr
Here is its latest. Now using 6" skyjacker springs, cut/turned beams, f-250 shock mounts and extended Radius arms. Its about the same flex as it was with the Duff springs EXCEPT we get more droop since the spring is longer.
I know all the pics aren't of the X doing the same thing so the flex amounts isn't quite the same (heading uphill like on the last pic means you get less stuff since there is less weight on the tire), but you get the idea.
Also, when you go for more lift you need to take care of the steering too but that doesn't really affect flex.
~Mark