What are my options in terms of getting some better brakes? I know almost nothing about these and with what I have planned for my explorer, I'm going to need brakes that help me stop a heavier car, preferably sooner. Currently looking into replacing everything - pads, calipers, rotors, whatever else to help me stop "on a dime."
You can increase the braking system performance some, but to stop on a dime is mostly going to depend on the tires. Locking up the wheels just invokes ABS, unless you delete it.
Have you actually had brake fading problems that you attributed to overheating rather than moisture in the brake fluid?
I currently have 16 inch rims but plan on buying other rims in the future, should I go to 17 inch for bigger rotors or will the heavier rims offset what I would gain from that? I know nothing about brake systems, so do bigger rotors even help?
Yes larger rotors help, but then you use a larger caliper and pad so not really an apples:apples comparison, but they only need enough performance to make the wheels lock up, then the ABS kicks in. Larger rotors will also heat up a little less on long downhill descents, as will slotted rotors, but only you can figure out if you really need them. Performance costs money, and making use of it, requires extra maintenance too, like the rotor replacements and more frequently flushing out the brake system.
Been reading about ceramic pads but the extra wear on rotors isn't something I'm interested in, I'd rather replace pads. But if it's that big of a difference, I'd definitely consider it because I see brakes as the biggest thing I can do to improve the safety of myself and others.
Ceramic are usually easier on rotors, though there are different friction materials used on different models of semi-metallic too. Ceramic perform worse when cold, though it doesn't take long to heat up brakes. Being able to stop on a dime means very high friction, which will eat rotors. Your goals are at odds with each other.
That stated, there's nothing unsafe about the OEM brakes, if kept in good working order. If your vehicle is shaking when braking, then you probably have a brake (or suspension) problem, not necessarily a brake spec issue that calls for an upgrade. However, considering the age of the vehicle, it very easily might have aftermarket rotors or pads by now, corrosion, old fluid (?) so you aren't experiencing new factory part performance.
This generation has been on the roads for over 25 years now and is not known to be particularly prone to brake problems. Remember, these vehicles are designed to be able to tow up to 3000lbs with the stock rotors. Only 3000lbs instead of the full tow package rating, because heavier trailers require their own brakes in many areas.
Lastly keep in mind that while ABS helps, mixing and matching parts may result in an imbalanced front to rear brake system. I mean that deviates from the factory design with a certain % more front braking than rear, so "imbalanced" is not really the right word to use, more like "different balance" which may contribute to worse emergency handling.