I ran 33's with 4.10 for a very long time. I agree that the match is very good if you have a SOHC or 5.0 and it worked perfectly with my SOHC. Many of the guys with first gen models and the lesser powered OHV went to 4.56 gears when they went to 33" tires but it's not needed with the better power of the other engines.
As to the original question, I agree that you really need to figure out a way to deal with a full size spare, however....
When I first went up to 33" tires (285/75r16) I did have the original spare (255/70r16) for awhile until I acquired a larger spare. On a fourwheeling trip 120 miles from home, I blew a rear tire. I had a limited slip and knew I couldn't get away with that, so I swapped a front to the rear and put the small spare on my front. I did drive home on that spare but kept it at 50mph with no apparent damage to my differential. (Disclaimer: your results may vary if you try it

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As a bandaid fix until you get the fullsize, you could get a Saftety Seal plug kit and a 12v air compressor which will fix 95% of the flats you'll ever encounter and thus you won't need to put the spare on in the first place. The Safety Seal plug kit is expensive ($50 or so), hard to find, and you may have to order online; but it will plug just about any hole a tire can get. In Moab in 2000, Ray Lobato ripped a sidewall on the Steelbender trail. It was a tear not a hole. Rick had a Safety Seal kit and I watched him insert a string of about a halfdozen Safety Seal plugs into that tear, then air the tire up, and Ray drove it the rest of the trail and back into town later that day with no leakage whatsoever.
After witnessing that, I ordered a Safety Seal online the day I got back home, and it's been an essential part of my trail kit ever since. I keep a fullsize spare now of course (35") but
[knock on wood] I've never had to use my spare on the trail. Keep in mind that I am still suggesting that you get a fullsize just like everyone else (even a Safety Seal won't fix a bent rim or blown bead) but as a bandaid you can at least get off the trail and to a service station on your original spare if you absolutely had to.