Install the UCA bolts the same way as they came out. The issue is not the alignment camber washers, they adjust those with the square hole in those. The issue is that with the bolts turned around, it is very very difficult to tighten them the last few turns. That means that for the alignment guy, they would need help holding the camber washer while they fight to tighten the bolt and nut. You have to hold both ends, the bolt head and nut. It's easy with them as they are in place like stock, but not the other way around.
The 4WD/AWD spindle nuts need to be very very tight. You can do that easily with the tire on the ground like when you loosened them. Make them mas tight as you can without hurting yourself, that's plenty and permanent.
FYI, those nuts are not the same for every axle maker, some use different threads. I have reused those nuts many many times, the issue is not about them coming loose. It's about the threads becoming hurt from multiple uses. Be very sure the threads all look great, and the nuts thread in easily to start. Feel free to use a drop of loctite red for insurance. Regards,
Go to another shop if they blather on about the stock bolts and charging you $100. Bad shops do that, where I go is now $45 and they don't do stupid things like that.