My kit definitely isn't like the one displayed above, it has the connector much like the blue one on our projector.. (Nice choice btw with the chrome, I love mine.. I don't think I'd much like black on my setup, which I'm sure you've thought to yourself also.)
I'm trying to steer away from the solenoid plan, I know hunterdan got it working, but only after he blew fuses.. that doesn't seem right to me.
Depending on which wires gets activated during high beam operation, I'll be hooking into that for the relay setup.. which will in turn go to both of the high beam H1's.
Seems like the one for the motor is the most obvious, but like mentioned before.... these wires are tiny as hell.. I'm almost scared to even hook them up to a relay... but if I can remove the high beam wire from the blue connector, and just connect that to the relay trigger, that would be great.
That still brings me back to the gap issue, I understand the 'low' which is the light entirely stays on constantly... but I think I remember during install without the high wire from the stock harness.. lights turn off when in high position... meaning somehow this relay bridges the power gap between the beams somehow. (Gotta keep in mind, no matter how the kit is setup, or any alterations you make to the wiring beyond the stock harness.. the vehicle still by default kills all voltage to the low beam wire. [<That's my biggest point really.. which gives me my confusion..] Somehow this relay grabs power from both wires, and even holds the power during the switch.. which doesn't make much sense logically. Not from what relays and other electrical switches I've seen for automotive lighting.
The kit is pretty much bypassing the vehicle's normal function... and it makes no sense how it's done...