Success! A rebuilt valve body from Central Valve Bodies did the trick. Couple of notes....
After taking the old valve body off, got my neighbor to read the codes in the computer (should have done that first) and the only one related to the transmission was P0715, for the Turbine input shaft speed sensor circuit. But, there are apparently so many things related to that code, that it might well be renamed "your transmission doesn't work" which was pretty well obvious by that point....
Ordered the valve body and it showed up 2 days later. Unlike my old valve body, the epc solenoid was not stuck in the bore... a clue, perhaps...
Had to get an inch-lb torque wrench, and after driving all over town, the only place I could find one was, you guessed it, Harbor Freight! So go ahead and order one and just get it over with.
Printed off the graphic on page 5 of this thread with the order of tightening the bolts. Clamped that to the frame rail and did several passes to bring up the torque. By the way, the HF torque wrench is not very handy starting out. I'd run the bolts down first, just fingertip tight. I happened to have a screwdriver-type in-lb wrench, but it only went up to 50 or 60 in-lbs so that was pass one. After that the HF wrench worked fine. Since the HF box says it is within 4%, I stopped at 93 in-lbs. Probably overly cautious but that should put all of the bolts at the upper end of the range (79-97 in-lbs).
Did have a scare when there was one extra bolt hole in the middle and didn't have a bolt in my piece of cardboard (a USPS flat rate box as I don't eat cereal, LOL). While panicking and looking around for another bolt, noticed that the extra filter bolt that came with the new filter might fit... wait a minute, Captain Obvious.... what are we missing.... d'oh!!! That's where the filter goes. Whew!
Bought a tub of cheap vaseline to help stick the pan gasket to the pan.... which was a total fail in 100+ degree heat. Cheap vaseline runs about like 30 weight oil at that temperature. Wheel bearing grease worked better.
For some reason I couldn't find Mercon-V ATF in gallon jugs anymore, and one local parts store didn't have any at all ???? Had to pony up for 8 individual quarts of mixed brands, but all had Mercon-V on the label so....
First drive out, truck still shifting very hard on 1-2, less on 2-3, and very smooth on the rest of the shifts. After driving it again, it is better. Thinking it may still be in 'limp home mode' due to the computer code. Need to get it reset and see. It seems to shift at slightly higher RPMs with my foot in it.
That's about it. Treated myself to a new creeper at HF. The guy at the register even found a $10 off coupon for the torque wrench, woo hoo!
Hope some of this helps the next person. BIG thanks to Central Valve bodies. They were quick to ship, patient on the phone with me, and everything was well boxed and bagged up (the valve body comes a little 'wet' from their testing machine. They even send you a big zip lock plastic bag to put your old one in, and a pre-printed return label, so don't throw the box away. I put the old solenoids back in mine and the brackets back one with the short screws, just like the new one showed up. Hope nothing fell out....