I understand what you're saying... The key is in how the VC works internally... It's set up to allow limited slippage between the front and rear when cornering, but not unlimited slippage...
The closest analogy I can come up with is the clutches in a limted slip diff. If you round a corner, the clutches slip, allowing one tire to roll farther than the other. No harm done. However, if you unload the rear axle, hold one tire stationary, ten minute apply power and let the other one spin, yes, there is some resistance, but you can cook the clutches quite easily.
The VC is not designed to allow that much relative motion between the front and rear. It uses some sort of fluid (hence the term viscous) to limit the speed differential between the front and rear outputs.
Not limiting the amount of slippage (i.e. when driving straight ahead, there is no front/rear speed differential) causes the fluid to get hot, as well as damages the internals. There have been several people on here over the years that have tried it without the shaft for a while, then discovered when they reinstalled the front shaft that at some point in time, the VC had locked-up. If it was fine before removing the shaft, then not fine after driving it like that for some time, what's the logical cause?
So, I understand what you're saying about there being a lack of resistance on the front shaft... But it's not the resistance (or lack thereof) that causes the wear. Make more sense?
Clear as mud now, yes?