No the OD band is not applied in the 2nd gear shift, if I wrote that I misspoke and it must have been late, like now. I'd say the next thing is to replace the EPC. At 125,000 it will benefit from this anyway.... even if your problem is not FIXED by that, it is a good move.
And certainly the servo could be the culprit. When you first install them the rubber on them (it is a molded assembly) is soft and supple, after a few years it gets pretty hard. On the A4LD they are damned near impossible to change IN the car... I have never done a 5R but get the sense that some years were not so bad. BUT, before we go there, lets look at the VB and EPC.
And I'd be hesitant to tighten the band much more. Let's look into the apply pressure - which starts with the EPC and Valve body. I mean it is also possible you have a leaky pressure regulator spool in the VB.
(ah for a pressure gauge reading)