Just wanted to update with pics and my theory of what happened with my rear end...
Here's the upper shock mount that was damaged...
The bar-pin that goes through the shock bushing was too short to be completely secured by the two bolts that attach it to the crossmember. I negligently didn't really think too much about it and soon forgot about it after installing the shocks. I'm thinking that the bar-pin simply came loose from the bolts when going through the whoops, and when it was hanging loose the bar-pin was smashed into the bottom of the crossmember and bent at that point, as well as crushing the resi hose and bottoming out the shock. There are gouges and scrape marks all over the crossmember which presumably is from the bar-pin. There's no way that the shock could have bottomed out while still in it's mounts unless the frame above the axle severely bent, or the axle moved to the side, in which case the other rear shock would have bottomed out too. That's my theory.
Here's how it was mounted before, you can see the ends of the bar-pin are barely held on by the hardware. Carelessness on my part.
And here's the sad looking shock
I got a new hose a few days ago from bilstein, and i'm going to get some longer bar-pins so the shocks can't come loose again, and also larger diameter washers. Maybe i'll tack the bar pins to the crossmember just for extra security.
And on another note, it looks like there's a leak from the pinion seal on my axle, not the diff cover as i originally thought. Gotta look into how expensive that would be to fix.